I was meeting with one of my very favorite clients yesterday--a successful, warm, motivated woman. She was struggling with implementing some changes in her work/life balance. This woman is used to creating radical and highly productive shifts in her business landscape and her client's businessess--a tour de force in professional expertise.
As such, she's been a bit hard on herself for not experiencing more breakthroughs in her work/life balance. I thought for a few minutes and realized that perhaps part of her struggle was that she was expecting too much too fast and then berating herself when she didn't achieve her personal goals with the same precision and certainty she seems to enjoy in her professional life.
It dawned on me that we needed a different approach. As I tell all of my audiences and readers, lasting change can take a bit of time and effort, but it's worth it. Small steps today lead to huge changes over time. You need to give yourself the grace and space to evolve into the new you. One way to do that is to consider foregoing the traditional "mega life overhaul" in favor of a more psyche-friendly "tweak of the week."
A tweak of the week is just a thoughtful process of identifying the successes and challenges you had in the preceding week toward reaching your new goal, and then to decide on one or two small tweaks to refine your efforts this week to yield more of those successes and fewer of those challenges.
Seems like this might be a more deliberate and friendly way to go about creating profound change in your life. Rather than beating yourself up over what you didn't do or how long it will take to do what you want to or....any number of things....why not identify what's working, do a little more of that and identify what's not working, and do a little more of that?
What could be your "tweak of the week" this week?
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